"People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that's what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.
A true soul mate is probably the most important person you'll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave.A soul mates purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life….”
Elizabeth Gilbert, EAT, PRAY AND LOVE.
I agree 100%. Though they kill your soul, they did something good for you. The most important part of your love experiences is after the passage of the Soulmate! You find yourself in a position where you don't believe in love anymore, or you don't want to. You hate him (at least that's what you wished to feel, you try hard). You tear all the pictures, clean out your hard drive, for some, fuck with anyone that comes around, pretend that everything is okay when one asks you how you are dealing with the situation.
Ok, pride is a good thing but in some situations you gotta let go, cry baby cry! Let your tears flow, especially if it was the soul mate thing! At this right moment your pain is so bad that you are unable to see how your soul mate, soul killer is actually your soul savior.
Let me explain this to you. You grew up thinking you will find a perfect match with whom you dreamed of a house, and kids playing in the garden. You dreamed of a man that is going to take care of you and your kids, a man you are going to admire, love and cherish. You met your soul mate, you planned all that, it all seemed so natural, and of course it seemed natural, you are soul mates!
Suddenly, you guys break up. I think that you just have been given a chance to work for it. You are given a chance to value your dreams and given the strength to make them come true.
By killing both your souls (breaking up!), you just gave each other a chance for rebirth.
Soul mates are soul saviors because they provide strength, enlightenment and give you the key to a different life.
Prepare yourself for love, you can make it if you work on it, and you can be surprised. There is not only one person that can make you happy, don't remain stuck on myths, or clichés, let yourself go for something new.
